Our Adoption Journey

Fostering

“Baby, I will always wuv you.” –LittleMan as he wrapped his arms around BabyMan this morning.

Fostering is not easy. I don’t know how people do this over and over again, but I am so thankful that those kind of people exist. There are so many unknowns with the system and the circumstances of the situation. Yet, in our little corner of the world, in the day-to-day, it’s like we find a way to make that all disappear.

Many people have asked us, “How can you do this?”

My answer is, “I’m not sure.” So until we know how, we love completely, knowing that this selfless love could break our hearts. We allow LittleMan to love completely, trusting that if he loses his “baby brudder” we will find a way to help him cope. We live like this because, if we didn’t, we would go crazy! We try to just be a family, to just be parents to two amazing little boys. I’m not saying that there are not times when all of the “what-ifs” don’t creep up and completely overwhelm and overtake me, but I am finding a way to work through them. It’s getting easier to do as time passes and we realize that patience is key AND no amount of worry will change the outcome here. We take it a step at a time. We trust that there is a reason we have all been brought together and we know that God does not make mistakes. Truly, that’s the only way we are making it through these uncertainties.

Our visits with TummyMom have been reduced from twice a week to twice a month. That has made it easier to “forget” the situation for a longer stretch of time. It has taken that glaring reminder away. It has also made life feel more normal. We aren’t spending over 2 hours in the car twice a week. We aren’t constantly feeling like we are ‘sharing.’ I don’t want to share too many specifics of the situation on here, given their sensitive nature. Please, just pray for the BabyMan and all who love him. There will be a lot of decisions made by a lot of parties in the coming months, pray that HIS best interest is the focus of ALL of those decisions. In the end, that’s the most important thing we can ask for.

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2 responses

  1. Amy

    We are loving and hoping and praying with you!

    December 31, 2011 at 6:48 am

  2. Now that we are approved to adopt, the agency has called us for a foster placement. And a lot of what you mentioned flashed through my mind. In the end, my husband decided to decline the offer because of our delicate situation (all that we have been through with infertility) and he worried that I would not take the separation well (which is probably correct). And I wonder if there is a way for us to be more proactively waiting. . . . . I wish you and BabyMan and LittleMan and all your family the best in 2012!!

    December 31, 2011 at 9:25 pm

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